Dating a women with kids
Lately, this blog has been mostly about gender issues, dating, marriage, divorce, sex, and parenting via analyzing talk radio, advice columns, news stories, religion, and pop culture in general. and subcultural elements perpetuated by fellow Evangelicals, social conservatives.Read at your own risk.[This is this blog's most popular post.That child does not need to compete with you, and you don’t need to compete with that child.Even if you were to marry her, the child(ren) will always come first, whereas being with a childless woman means YOU come first. So you’d bond with her children and then you (and the children) would have to endure the pain of losing or restricting that bond with each other.That’s bad enough for you, but you should not be a party to putting a child through that.3) Being around the child(ren) exposes you to false charges of abuse.
All it takes is some judge or government official picking YOU to pay for the child’s needs rather than taxpayers.Don’t do anything you wouldn’t do in the presence of your elders. If you’re having a hard time with the kid disliking you, and this, for whatever reason cannot be resolved, then you must forfeit the relationship, or figure out a way as a team to work through the obstacles.Refrain from cursing, bad habits and telling stories that create a negative impact. Let’s face it, mom and offspring are a package deal and no one will ever break them up!Intuitively you want to be there to guide the youth in his life, but he needs to be able to come to you when he feels it’s necessary. Children are not stupid and your authenticity will win the hearts of everyone anyway. However, participating in their world is the gateway to bonding in both worlds.5. What mom wouldn’t love to have you include their offspring in activities?If you try to encroach his space it will certainly end badly as kids can sometimes put up walls, or create distance, which keeps them from bonding with you.2. Kids can pick up on negativity, and really…why be with someone if you cannot give the best you have to offer? I always include the love of my life’s son because a.) I enjoy his company, and b.) I don’t want mom to feel like her son isn’t welcome—when in fact he is welcome.6.
An unmarried mother should put her child(ren) first.